cultivate happier relationships.

Cultivate happier relationships.

Some people think that a good relationship is when they find the right person, but really all depends on how you cultivate and know your partner. It is important to maintain a good relationship participated in activities that are significant or enjoyable to ourselves as well as to our partner. Spending time together, build a base that can weather predictable storms and express gratitude and sacrifices are important factors to cultivate happier relationships.

Spending time with your romantic partner and participating in activities that are important to ourselves as well as to our partner are essential factors to cultivate happier relationship. According to the article happiness in relationship, Tal Ben-Shahar explains “spending meaningful time with friends, family or romantic partner is necessary for happiness (111). Personally, I feel happy when I spend time and share precious moments with my husband. After my parents he is the most important and valuable person in my life. In the article Happiness in relationship, Tal Ben-Shahar explains “the most important and challenging component of a happy relationship is not finding the one right person but rather cultivating the one chose relationship” (120).  To illustrate, some people think that a good relationship is when they find the right person, but really all depends on how you cultivate and know your partner. Couples should be motivated by something that makes them happy. In my case, my husband and I try to do different activities that are meaningful and enjoyable for us. For example, we both like to go to the movies and surprises. I feel happy when my husband prepares a surprise to make me feel good. In addition, routine makes a relationship ends or helps to decreases happiness. That’s why people have to find ways to avoid this problem doing meaningful and pleasurable things for the relationship.

Other way to cultivate happier relationships is building a solid foundation that can withstand predictable storms in the relationship. Knowing our partner deeply is one of the best techniques to achieve a solid foundation in the couple. According to the article happiness in relationship, Tal Ben-Shahar explains “As we get to know one another and spend time together engaged in activities that we care about most, we build a foundation that can weather inevitable storms” (121). In other words, to create a firm relationship we should know more about our partner. Tal Ben- Shahar also introduces the way “We cultivate intimacy by knowing and being known” (121). Knowing our partner makes us feel more confident and secure about how to act in a specific situation in the relationship. For example, sometimes economic problems affect relationships, but when you have a solid foundation with your partner is easier to solve and find solutions that will bring an atmosphere of prosperity. On the other hand, most time people who don’t have a firm relationship tend to despair and make mistakes when they have any problem. Consequently they don’t find ways to solve or find solution to create a better environment in the relationship.

 Express gratitude and make sacrifices help to build a stronger and beautiful relationship. For instance, when you first met your partner, came to be a mutual affection because of certain things you had in common. Maybe it was because you met in a way that seems to indicate that had the same interest and goals as you. However, after time passes you have to make some sacrifices and show gratitude to cultivate happier relationship. In the article Happiness in relationship, Tal Ben-Shahar explains "it is important to note that standing by one’s partner in a time of need is not sacrificed; when we love someone, we often feel that helping that person is helping ourselves" (117). I totally agree that when we love someone we have to think not only in our welfare but also on the welfare of our partner. In my own experience, I had to sacrifice a lot of things like my friends, my own interest and stop thinking selfishly since I got married. My husband and I knew from that first moment that everything would change. Any decision to make would affect us both. As Nathaniel Branden notes, “This is the great complement of love: that our self-interest expands to encompass our partner” (117). On the other hand, gratitude is very important in romantic relationship. When we express appreciation to our partner, we are cultivating happier relationships. You make feel your partner comfortable and happy when you appreciate everything that you partner does to increases happiness in the relationship. .

In conclusion, to cultivate happier relationships we must find ways to motivate our romantic relationship and try to maintain an atmosphere of prosperity. We have many ways to find happiness in the relationship such as spending time together, build a base that can weather predictable storms and express gratitude and sacrifices. In addition, sometimes the dynamism and richness of social participation will depend on what we are able to provide and know others deeply.